Friday, 29 July 2016

My boyfriend’s dad attempted to kiss me

I know I get on well with my boyfriend’s family. We’ve been an item for a few years now, but at a recent party, his dad tried to kiss me after giving me a playful smack on the bum. We’d all had too much to drink but I told my boyfriend about it right away. In the morning, I didn’t make an issue of it as it looked as if both father and son had forgotten an about the incident.

Thinking it was a one-off, I put it all behind me but sometime later, he made another pass at me. This time, we were both sober and I was indignant. He apologized and promised it would never happen again. I was stunned by his behaviour to say the least. I know I should have mentioned it to my boyfriend but I was too shocked to think straight. How should I handle this? Uju, by e-mail. DearUju, Honesty might be the best policy but I don’t believe it applies here. Telling your boyfriend now would achieve nothing. He’s bound to be terribly hurt, leading to a full- scale warfare within the family, father versus son, husband versus wife; even boyfriend versus girlfriend. It must be horrible trying to fend off the advances of a drunken old leech and even though you should alert your boyfriend again that his dad is not to be trusted, the fact he did nothing the first time should be a restraint. For now you should keep quiet and see if your boyfriend’s dad can keep his promise. If he can’t, you’ll have to say something – either to him or your boyfriend. Then again, if you tell your boyfriend, it may come down to being your word against his dad’s and who will be believed. No son likes to doubt his father. You need to confide in someone you know you can trust. Getting it off your chest might help you put it behind you and move Don’t forget however, to give this old git a final warning. Tell him ifhe does it again, you’re going to tell his son and wife.